Praise To Those Who Don't Try

Kids now a days will listen to anything you say and take it to heart. Sadly, this is the world we live in. Their just gullible mini-me's. In reality, kids are given things they haven't earned and it's all about effort now. I get it, you can't sit there and call a little boy stupid to his face because he colored outside the lines. I would never do that in the first place but, I'm iffy on the whole praising a child for effort. In the article, it gives the example about how soccer coaches stopped counting goals and gave everyone a trophy. In my eyes, this is great, equality for everyone but giving something to a child that didn't earn it is giving them even more false hope. 

When I look back at my childhood, never was I praised for getting a bad grade on a math test and was told "great effort". No I had to work for my grades and achievements. I always had a strong thing for art and drawing. I was never really good but for some odd reason I stuck with it throughout high school. I knew I wasn't the best in the class but my work never showed that. I didn't need the teachers approval and praise in what I did. She would hang up random art works in the back of the classroom from other classes and classmates to give inspiration. More than a few times my work was up on the board and no one gave me praise, yet again no one knew it was mine until my artwork was showcased in the art show. I wanted to be the best and strived to be the best. 

Same concept I had when I was playing soccer. I wasn't the natural born talent one. I had to work to be where I am today. Still my skills aren't the best but I can improve that. The example of the soccer coach counting the goals. I believe in that all the way. I don't want to be handed a trophy when I as a player, didn't improve during that season. It makes me think "alright, cool now next year I don't have to try as hard" when in reality I did. I remember kicking myself junior year for not training harder for my spot on varsity, I was so close and I never got it. I wasn't given that spot because of my effort during tryouts and the off season. I had to work for my spot senior year. I had to work for my spot to wear that #19. I worked my butt off, alongside my teammates, for our shot in the playoffs and that's exactly what we did. But  I was praised for my efforts during the award ceremony which didn't make me feel too good for I put everything out on that field and I wanted to earn my varsity letter, not just have it handed to me.

 I'm not gonna sit here and say praising kids for their efforts is a horrible thing but it's not so bad when you look at the overall picture. Getting kids to see their efforts getting noticed makes them want to try harder for whatever is next and become better. But I don't think they need to be praised for everything. I get having your kid graduate high school is a big thing, but passing a math class shouldn't require an award such as money or a new car. It's ridiculous! What I'm really trying to say is set the example of not giving up easily and work hard and show your little mini-me what mommy or daddy can really do and what they can do in the future. Don't tear them down, build them up and give them options. If one doesn't work out then they have some other option to turn to. I can't wait to use this on my kids in the future.

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Social Media...

Honestly, I don't know where I'd be without it. There's so much you can do and discover on these social media pages it's ridiculous! It's amazing Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat, Tumblr and so many more. I'm gonna be honest, I'm addicted to it. I really am. I just had to throw my phone off my bed because I was just on Instagram for the past 20 minutes trying to figure out whose doing what. It's what I use to escape from the real world around me. Besides about 4 soccer balls and a open goal. But these I'm truly addicted to and my phone does not leave my hands.

Facebook. The place where I go to find out about the presidential campaigns and what not. I mean one it's a weird name, haha one day a guy face plants a book and was like wow awesome! I'm gonna share that with my friends, like what? haha but in reality I find everything out on this app. Like I can spend 10 minutes and close it finding out my best friend got married, politician claiming women get pregnant to sell the fetus to planned parenthood, seeing another baseball player using steroids, seeing some funny cat video, some news about rednecks ranting about gun control, some guy dancing to the cha cha slide in the best possible way, who stole someone's man and now talking shit and my favorite bands new album. It's amazing. 

Instagram- My addiction. It's where you share photo's of literally anything and everything. I don't know who would be against it. I have some problems with it. I mean girls are expected to look a certain way in selfies and expect a certain amount of likes to feel pretty. Which I mean, I feel at times but then again who cares about me.

I'm not gonna lie, I'm gonna go out and say it, I'm an Insta whore. I'm that one white girl that takes about 20 selfies but that one makes it to show the world, with the perfect lighting, edited to certain colors with an inspirational quote. It's hilarious to see all the #ManCrushMondays, #WomanCrushWednesdays and whatever else and it just goes to show how single I am. So if you want a  basic white girl seeing how single I am with MCM's of Jason Aldean and Paul Goldschmidt in your feed, or some selfies with band quotes, then please feel free to follow me @Analisee_19. It'll be worth your time I promise.

Pinterest- My personal drug. Not gonna lie, I'm on here 24/7 looking at everything and anything possible until my mom gets irritated after showing her a million and one things about Halloween decorations. (I mean it's my favorite holiday, we gotta have the best costume party with house decorations.) I have to say being a college student sucks at times on pinterest because it shows you everything you can't and don't have. I look at everything from tattoo ideas to new workout clothes to planning my entire wedding in a day. I'm a little crazy with it.

Snapchat- my last and highly addictive drug or social media. The little ghost is just so tempting to press. This is where you can go to see your friends being stupid with fireworks, see your crush with their new haircut and beard line up (just kidding I'm not a stalker) or what's going on in another country. You can either send a super cute selfie to your crush or a very unpleasing selfie to your best friend that thank god only lasts for 4 seconds, until they screenshot. That's how trust is ruined on snapchat. DON'T DO IT! I mean on my snapchat you'll see me posting selfies, pictures of my dutch bros and videos of my friends dancing on a light pole in the middle of Park West parking lot. Which is quite hilarious. My stories usually last about 50 seconds a day if, that. On a good day, they last about 200 seconds. Judge me, I just want people to know what's going on in my life. I live in the moment with my phone. I don't care if you disagree with me or not I could care less about your opinions of me.

Soooo as you can see I'm kind of addicted to my phone and my laptop. There's so many other kinds of social media that I don't personally use but millions of others do. 90% of my battery goes to using these apps. The other 10% is texting. This is my escape and how I spend my down time. It's taken me this long to write this post because of my addictions haha.